what happened to chivalry?

... even though the woman are catching up with their ways of the world, I'm sure if I were a man I'd feel the same way about relationships with woman. But, I do believe men have certain responsibilities to treat woman with the most respect.

It's mainly a trust thing to me, since some of you know that I have been through a lot of tough crap in my life, that a lot of people don't know about, it's safe to say that I am a doubter when it comes to trust. And you'd have to agree I have good reason. No, I'm not talking about being dumped...or, not getting a long with my parents. So anyways...here is my spill.

FIRST: Pornography

Yeah, it might not seem like a big deal to a lot of you, but to me it's
huge. A lot of woman out there are insecure about their bodies, from media references and such. So to me it's weird that a woman, wouldn't care that her husband, boyfriend, whatever, is out there looking at sexywoman from magazines and Internet sites, withhotbodies. No I think they do, their bodies are not nice enough, their husbands aren't loyal enough, it's seriously not right. I don't get why looking at hot naked ladies that you don't know anything about for pleasurable purposes became civil. Someone who doesn't get why it's such a big deal, please contact me with your reasons.

And for the people who think it's not a big deal, here is some info for ya,The No. 1 search term used at search engine sites is the word sex.Users searched for sex more than other terms such as "games," "travel," "music," "jokes," "cars," "weather," "health" and "jobs" combined. The study also found that "pornography/porno" was the fourth-most searched for subject.
Alexa Research


A 2000 MSNBC.com survey found that as many as 80 percent of visitors to sex sites were spending so much time tracking down erotica on the computer that ,they were putting their real-life relationships and/or jobs at risk. "Until they discovered cybersex, most of these people had no problems with sexual addition", according to the surveys author, Al Cooper, a sex therapist at the San Jose Marital Services and Sexuality Center in San Jose, Calif.

77% of online visitors to adult content sites are male. Their average age is 41 and they have an annual income of $60,000. 46% are married.
Forrester Research Report, 2001

And then my personal favorite,

In a Kinsey Institute survey, male respondents were asked "Why do you use porn?"
72% said they used porn to masturbate/for physical release.
69% - to sexually arouse themselves and/or others.
54% - out of curiosity.
43% - "because I can fantasize about things I would not necessarily want in real life."
38% - to distract myself,

Awww...ain't that

sweet?

Yes, I understand it's human nature to be disgusting sometimes, bu seriously, we live life with rules to control ourselves, and not to be so selfish. It's not always about ourselves.



SECOND: Abuse

In any way, shape, or form, it happens.

Estimates range from 960,000 incidents of violence against a current or former spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend per year to three million women who are physically abused by their husband or boyfriend per year.

Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime.

Nearly one-third of American women (31 percent) report being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives, according to a 1998 Commonwealth Fund survey

This one is sad,

On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner.

THIRD: Lust/Divorce

I don't really need to find any stats for this one because the past two make it clear that a lot of relationships aren't based on

true love

to begin with. And then the fact that men have huge sex drives...and 69% need magazines to arouse themselves.

22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives

44% of 9.9 million women in divorce are not awarded child support, and 12% did not receive awarded support.

And for those woman who are not getting their support, and trying to feed families of their own,

More progress has been made for women, but

most women continue to work in jobs stereotyped as female jobs, and women in nearly all job categories receive less pay than males in those job categories. Women face limits on promotion to high level management positions because of conscious and subconscious sex bias, and continue to experience sexual harassment on the jobdespite increased employer awareness of an employers obligation to take preventive and corrective action. Pregnant women suffer from discrimination in hiring, promotion, and job performance evaluation because of false assumptions about their ability to work, and women with family care giving responsibilities are disadvantaged by employer insensitivity to the family responsibilities of their employees. Women of color are particularly vulnerable to discrimination in the workplace because they face a combination of racial and gender barriers.

and another little fact for ya,

Although half of managers and professional specialists are women, only 16% of officers in Fortune 500 companies and 5% of top earners are women.

Extra-marital affairs remain biggest cause for divorce as major increases in family strains and emotional/physical abuse also cause more splits, with the majority of men using infidelity.



Cites:
Economics and Statistics Administration, U.S. Department of Commerce
Catalyst, Women and Men in U.S. Corporate Leadership
U.S. Census Bureau
Grant Thornton Co.

liars

We are all liars

We are all hypocrites

We all want attention

We all want to be loved, and even sometimes unconditionally

But

We never trust and we always doubt

because...

people lie

people are hypocrites

people want attention

and the sad things is no one out there will be perfect

they all make mistakes

so just give up now

Okay so a lot of my random thoughts

[I LOVE attention]

[Think of Gandhi, think of your god or idol. They were better than you will ever be. Almost perfect or perfect. Everyone who hated them, hated them why? Because they were perfect. Point proven, so quit obsessing over people who hate you. Start seeing it my way, the more people who hate me, the more I must be perfect ;)]

[Leave gay people alone. If you aren't gay, you are saying you don't have feelings for people of the same sex. So you saying it's wrong, or for attention is so judgmental. If you don't have the feelings, then how can you possibly say they don't exist?]

(Again, adoption is a totally different topic, which has many factors, just as straight adoptions would have also)

[I don't care if you are Mexican, Iranian, Chinese, or South Korean. I can't judge you by your idiots, because I see you looking at America as a country and I sure as heck hope you don't see me by my country]

[I play the air guitar when music gives me a tingly feeling inside, at night, and in the morning]

[ I know that you can't please everyone because no one is loved by everyone...ever. And that's why in conclusion I love people who hate me, it is proof to me that I'm human]

[I hate the noun "celebrities". I have no desire to meet someone because they are rich for stupid reasons, and to me they are not celebrated people. Seriously, should we really be celebrating the fact that the average person works their whole life to make the same amount of money a celebrity makes in a month or less?]

[quit saying you hate drama, you saying that drama (1 : a composition . . . intended to portray life or character or to tell a story usually involving conflicts and emotions through action and dialogue . . .) is something you hate is being completely hypocritical. If you are jerk enough to be calling someone "drama" then you obviously have some "involving conflicts and emotions through action" drama is everywhere kids.]

[sometimes I have to be told to quit arguing]

[It's pretty sad how something that makes my friends the angriest is when I tell them to shut up and stop judging others. What kind of people are we?]

[I enjoy my worldly things, so do you, if you don't, by hell go Amish]

[Living in some horrid state of being would do us all good. Isn't it funny how whatever trials we have we say "wow that was such a good lesson", but then we go right back to our old ways. History repeats itself, so do human beings]

[i think that me being created from a cell coming from out of no where is insane. and I also think that statistically it all makes sense, doesn't add up. I'm waiting for you scientists to come up with something better]

[we always want what we don’t have and want to get rid of what we have too much of. and I am a perfect example of that. shut up, at least I admit it]

[I wonder what humans would be like if they didn't spend their first 30 years of their lives trying to "find themselves".]

[Life is pretty erotic]

[I hate being sick]

[I am most upset. not when I let myself down, but when I let others down. I hate the thought of being selfish and hurting someone else by it]

[quit saying you aren't a people pleaser. it only makes sense to do certain things ,or change so people like you. humans are animals. it's animal instinct. I dare whoever says "they don't need anyone", next to live in solitary. oh by the way, invent things like computer, or fridges and TV’s, since you "need no one else". so you make up everything scientist and researchers have already done for you. do it by yourself. we all need each other, cute huh?]

{ everyone just wants to sound really cool...everything is to impress. when socrates said the smartest person first has to know they know nothing, did he realize, he was implying he knew something, therefore he knows nothing. Therefore he is a hypocrite, and everything he says means nothing, and then me saying all of this means i have no meaning in what i say either. so really none of us do, so i want to know who does. I dont know if it makes sense, but i have always wondered how this works out ;)}

[I love making up my own life style, doing my own things. What would this world be like if everyone were so perfect like critics? Don't they need people like me, and others , to call "losers" so they can look cool and make themselves happier? That doesn't add p.]

A Public announcement

P.E.T.A.- I swear to you . . . argh. PETA makes vegetarianism look retarded. I think vegetarians are awesome but seriously. C'mon PETA, I hear more people say they think vegetarian is stupid from what PETA does, than I hear people say, wow, PETA is truely great, I'm going to be a devout vegetarian from now on. Don't give me crap on this one, I already know I'm right. I have so many more things to say about PETA, but I wont go into it all right now.

Look on the bright side.

So today is not your day of sunshine? Well everyone has those days regardless of who you are.
You know what pisses people off more than anything? Whether you realize it now or not. People that are "always" happy piss everyone off.
You know why? They always let you seem like you are a horrid person. Gee, and who would think that they are the biggest liars and decievers. So you know someone like this as we all do. You're having a crappy day and you feel like there is not a chance of pity or grievance. Well now think of the happiest person you know. Someone who is never negative. And lastly think of how many things they are holding in each and every day.
That can't be good for your health.

One

Whether you were the first one, or the last one. You were still part of the one. I went on a 3 day hike, and I just thought that up. It was amazingly hard yet amazingly beautiful. It doesn't matter where I was or to what extent I attended, I did it. Think about that maybe as an idea of life.
You might always be caught up last, or maybe you are lucky and end up first, but whoever you are don't quit because you're not where you want to be. Quitting just takes you out of the ball game. Quitting makes you nothing, not even part of the one.

one word for you to think about, in one day [Peace]

For one day you said you have been bored, you had nothing to do.
You sat home, watched tv, ate, slept.
You groan about your bad day.
One word for you, Iraq.
Definition= lucky to have any electricity, lucky to be living, afraid for your own life. Food?
That's the least of your worries.

For one day you said you were too busy to be happy.
You sat at work, worked on the house, the yard, helped your family.
One word for you, Soldier (in Iraq).
Definition= too busy defending other people, working on protecting their environment, working on not dying yourself.
You miss your work at home.

For one second, you understand just how lucky you are.
And let yourself take knowledge of your greed.
One word for you, America.
Definition= living life in your own "safe" world. Sure, you think horrible things happen that you wish didn't. But there's nothing you can do about that, so whine about how horrid your own life is.
It's only human to complain.

For millions of people, being killed, being injured, being caught in the middle of all this.
One word is all you don't know.
PEACE.
Definition, you have none, all you know is war, all you know is devastation.
The only thing close to
peace
you know of is a hint of happiness,from receiving just one thing to give you hop, one thing to eat or drink, one thing to sleep in, one person to help you through.

Through the eyes of a victim

It's not so common, the sounds aren't so familliar. Screaming, crying, pleads, and noises mostly not heard with the ears, but felt from vibrations. Actually, each one of them seperated tells you something is wrong, but summed up together, something serious is wrong, you know it before you even see it. It's behind your back now, more than just dead, destroyed. Death and destruction are creeping up on you. You'd hate to admit it but at best this was a thrill. A complete shock. You're not even thinking, your body must be taking over your legs, bringing them up again to run at will. Just running, nothing else.
Then there was nothing. Your body lost control, and long ago your mind had left its sanity. You aren't running anymore. Thrills? For you, complete opposites of thrill. Those horrid people who did this still have anxiety running through their veins. On other hand, your veins run cold, then stop running at all. To end with a cut off, nothing left at all to you. They get their thrills, over and over again, to them it's all too familliar. It shouldn't be. I wish those idiots who do this were all dead. Your glad it's over, a thrill you were never seeking, and never finished to find the happiness of.

Post script- I wrote this the night before London's tradgedy. God bless you, I'm so sorry.